We are shaped by two often conflicting drives: to stay with what we know and to move forward.
In accord with our drive to stay safe, we adopt in childhood whatever responses are at hand, telling certain stories about how we act and acting in line with those stories. When care is lacking, we cling to what we have and stay connected to the past through anger, sadness, anxiety, loyalty to whoever's nearest. But when we look at the world missing a sense of love, we misjudge it, make desperate decisions, and find ourselves impatient, or stuck, or both.
The family of origin is the essential place to remember, develop, and protect love, since knots and hardships in the family of origin present the largest obstacles to knowing love in the first place. But one who knows love looking back is one who can recognize love moving forward.
Through Family Constellations, we focus on bringing the various facts of our lives into harmony and order with a new narrative -- the literal course of life over generations -- learning the roles of gratitude, reciprocity, and responsibility. We find that it is empowering, and in our power, to know love where we had not before -- to be in accord with the forward movement of life -- and that this peace allows us, in day-to-day living, to be engaged, patient, and endlessly creative.
Family Constellations are an embodied, group approach, as much a space to come together in mutual service as a space to directly and personally experience new resources. A workshop is a pause in business -- room to breathe, to connect, to see and be seen whole. Because we already, instinctively, "map" essential relationships, events, and forces in predictable ways, we can give form as representatives to spontaneous, responsive pictures of our family systems. Much of the learning and sense of well being in Family Constellations happens when we contribute as representatives, heightening our own awareness of the ways events and beliefs are held and passed among us through body language, empathy, and metaphor.
Monthly workshops, seminars, and immersions take place in New York City year-round, drawing participants from the tristate area. Offerings in the Midwest (Chicago and regularly Louisville, Kentucky), Portland (Oregon), and Florida can be found at suzitucker.com